5 Things I Do That Helps Me To Make Sense of My Mental Clutter

Clare - This Is Still Me♥️
4 min readMay 29, 2023

After my discovery at my therapy session last week, I was surprised to find that the feeling of having that huge weight lifted from my shoulders had lasted.

I think I had grown so used to having those daily mental battles with myself, about myself, that when I realised that they weren’t happening, I was perplexed.

Did I like myself now? Was this just because I was having a few good days? Would the bitter inner voice return the minute something went wrong? I didn’t want to tempt fate and truly believe that I had finally started to get to grips with my self-esteem.

Soon enough, a bad day did come and the voice did too, but it was different; it was quieter and weaker, and I felt it had less power over me.

I was able to do the things I needed to do to make myself feel better, with a lot less resistance and I bounced back to my happy state much more quickly, feeling satisfied with how things were and even, dare I say, excited, about the direction I’m heading in.

I wanted to share some of the things I have found to help me get through any darker times. Unfortunately, there is no quick fix here and some things may have to be done consistently before you will see the benefits. But I am so glad I kept doing them because they make a huge difference to my mindset.


Yep, I’m going straight in with the big one. Without therapy, I 100% would not be in the…



Clare - This Is Still Me♥️

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