How One Email Redefined My Perspective on Self-Worth

Hello lovelies,

Last week, I read something in Amanda Goetz’s Life’s a Game weekly newsletter that really struck me.

It’s no secret to my regular readers that I suffer from low self-esteem and self-doubt. Since starting HRT, things have improved, but I’m still working through it with my therapist.

When I read Amanda’s email, her message hit me hard. I’ve seen similar quotes before but never truly understood their meaning until now. Thanks to Amanda, it finally clicked, and I want to share it with you.

I will paraphrase, but if you’d like Amanda’s detailed explanation, which I highly recommend, you can subscribe here.

Imagine This Scenario

• You’ve arranged to catch up with someone you care about.
• You get to the venue, sit down, look at the menu, maybe even order a drink.
• 15 minutes later, they’re still not there.
• Then you receive a text saying they’re not coming. There’s no emergency; they say this catch-up isn’t their priority.

How would you feel? Raging? Hurt? Like you don’t matter to them?

The Realisation

What if I told you both people in this story were you? Let me explain:

• I prioritise plans to catch up with people I care about.
• But when I set time aside for myself…