Why Is Self-Kindness So Difficult And Self-Hatred So Easy?

I had something different that I was going to write for today’s post, but given how I have been feeling lately, I thought it better to address the elephant in the room with me, instead of trying to hide from it.

If you’re a regular reader, you will know that I have been having some intense therapy sessions over the last few weeks. Just to be clear, there is no hidden trauma in my life, nothing dramatic has occurred. Like many people, I struggle with self-esteem and self-worth, and this tips over into daily life.

It’s a strange thing because I used to associate self-esteem with how a person perceives their looks, like feeling fat or unattractive, but I have come to learn that it’s so much more than that, it’s so much deeper.

A lot of decisions I make on a daily basis come down to how I feel about myself and sometimes, that decision can have a snowball effect in either direction. I find it so hard to be kind to myself.

I have just come back from a lovely, relaxing weekend in Hereford and if I could have clicked my fingers and got myself straight home without driving, that would no doubt be the state that I would still be in. Unfortunately, this was not the case.

When I got back to my car on Sunday, I had a flat tyre. My stress levels immediately went through the roof, I am 3…